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ArnieZ said:
Glad you got your stuff back Poe! But if the family can't somehow substantialy insure this is going to be taken care of, there will be more , less lucky, victims in the future.

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Agreed-and even though you got your stuff back, if you filed a police report or notified your insurance co., you will HAVE to let them know. Otherwise, when this (or some other) dirtbag breaks in and rips you off again, you're completely fucked. How can you make a claim for something already stolen?

Another thing-as said above, to pretend this never happened will not help this guy if drugs are an issue and he may hurt somebody or get hurt or worse breaking into the wrong house.

....and who is going to pay for your new locks, ADT, etc.??

More real costs on your shoulders unfortunately.

Think hard before you walk away doing nothing. This is NOT about revenge or justice, but protecting you and Denise. I'd say thank god she wasn't home, but maybe it was better for this douche that she wasn't ;P

 
We don't know any of the details surrounding this friend of yours, but are you sure you are doing him/her a favor by not pressing charges? Maybe this would be the "learning moment" for them, a kick in the pants that changes his/her course before it gets too far out of control.
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I agree. I'm glad you got your stuff back, but if the thief isn't punished, he'll more than likely do it again.

 
Good news for you. Some people learn from their mistake. I hope that happens with your thief.

This is a good wake-up call for all of us.

 
Congrats. /emoticons/default_blink.png I would have been devastated.

In my VHO, you are doing the right thing.

 
I'm glad your stuff is back. I hope the perp gets help. You were very generous. Sorry I missed the chance for a road trip with Jeffro and Cajun Boy, though!

 
Is the family going to crack ribs and break fingers or just show a lot of compassion and understanding?

The advice to never feel sorry for an alcoholic is something that people learn after the fact. If the guy's family takes this route toward whatever made him steal from you the problem does not go away. He will be more careful next time.

 
IF there is an addiction problem involved, you aren't doing the guy any favors in the long run by letting him slide. Usually it takes a crisis like this to get somebody on the road to getting their life back together.

Just my humble (but informed) opinion.

 
I'm really glad you recovered everything Poe!!!

That friend of yours was really great to tell you what happened. Glad that there is honest people living around

 
I echo the good news/bad news sentiments. I have a family member involved in meth that went the same route. It's hard on everyone involved to make rational decisions we your already emotionally invested.

 
Glad to hear the news that you at least got the "Stuff" part back. My sympathies to you and the family of the guy who did it - he's gonna need some serious ass-kicking though. There has to be a facing of consequences for the actions somewhere there.

As far as theft from family/friends, I'm seeing a lot more of theft cases in the last 6-12 months involving people who intimately knew their victims. Business partners, relatives, neighbors, etc. stealing from our clients. I'm also noting a common theme - the majority of the guilty parties seem to think that they will somehow get off lighter (or escape prosecution entirely) with somebody they know v. a complete stranger. This definitely plays into the motivation for targeting specific victims.

Some (not even most), seem to express some remorseful sentiment, but like all crimes of opportunity, they really don't think they'll ever get caught.

 
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Ok here it goes...well all that I am willing to tell anyway.

The guy was by best friends little brother. I had no idea he had become a meth head, but evidently the second I told my buddy about the theft he had a strong suspicion it was his little brother. I taught this kid, used to give him lessons back in the day. I have known him since he was in Jr high. He was aware of what I had in my house. This was really tough.

As much as I would like to press charges, I just can't do that to my friend or his parents. I am really close to them and they are devastated by this already. Given the value of the guitars, we are talking serious time from what I understand. Dude even took my Rolex.

What was said to him by his parents was something I would never wish on my wost enemy.

I agreed to drop the charges with the understanding that he would go immediately to rehab.

I have never in my life seen a more pathetic person. I simply felt awful for him which is bizarre given the circumstances.

This someone I will absolutely see again, I don't have the heart to tell my wife. She is infinitely less forgiving than myself.

Again, and I cannot stress this enough.

I WAS LUCKY!! INSURE YOUR INSTRUMENTS! I cannot imagine what it would have been like had I not been insured, I would have gone insane.

 
cmatthes said:
As far as theft from family/friends, I'm seeing a lot more of theft cases in the last 6-12 months involving people who intimately knew their victims. Business partners, relatives, neighbors, etc. stealing from our clients. I'm also noting a common theme - the majority of the guilty parties seem to think that they will somehow get off lighter (or escape prosecution entirely) with somebody they know v. a complete stranger. This definitely plays into the motivation for targeting specific victims.

I think all of us should re-think how we communicate our gear collections

to the outside world... I'm sure it's hard to resist showing off your crap at the

neighborhood bar or whatever, but I think these times are just getting really

wierd... I also think we need to be careful with our online footprints.

but it's great you got your stuff back, I would make sure you everything is

properly communicated with the police and insurance co so it doesn't in any

way affect your future insurability.
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glad to hear the gear is back - not so glad to hear of the situation under which everything occurred. Hopefully rehab helps the guy with the problem.

FWIW, I just spoke to Rob Gallo over at Heritage Insurance to get proper coverage for my gear - I was very pleasantly surprised how easy it is and how reasonably priced the coverage is. Doesn't matter how much/how little gear you have - insure it and make sure you're covered in case something goes wrong.

 
Very glad for you, but at he same time sad to.

In a weird way maybe it would have been "easier" if it would have been someone else and you just lost those possessions and not the trust.

 
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