My wife loved my band and guitar playing, until we got married. All my gear was gone within a year. It now took back seat to her, our child..........the toaster. Do not ever marry a wife that has no hobbies, because you will become her hobby and suffocate to death.
If you like the JB but it is just to aggressive, I would try the Custom 5 or the Custom Custom. You'll get tons of suggestions but the best thing is to just buy a couple of different ones and try them all out. Jim Wagner Pickups are also a good choice. I would start with the Custom 5.
depends entirely on what kind of sound I'm looking for. Also there are some pedals these days that have a ton more options than any amp overdrive/distortion, and you don't need to blow down walls to get it.